Last weekend, my almost four-year old son finally had an opportunity to go fishing. All summer long, he has looked out the window longingly around 8 pm and asked to go fishing “like the school agers.” Even though it is still light out, he still needs to head to bed. But finally, on Saturday, he had a chance to go fishing while we were visiting friends. He was so excited! So proud to be able to hang out with the “school ager” boys who were also fishing on the dock
Until he caught the fish. Jim got the fish off the hook, and our friend snapped a picture. All the while, Jim is saying things like:
“It’s just a fish” and “there’s nothing to be scared of.”. Oh, the irony of things. See, the next night I looked for a few pictures of Jim and I when we were little. We keep getting asked where the boys get the blonde hair from — and we get these skeptical looks when we say we were actually blonde as kids. So I pulled out a few photos, and I found the one to the right. =====>
According to the caption, this one was taken about a week or so before my husband’s 4th birthday. The similarity of expressions is pretty priceless.
The whole situation reminds me a few things about life — and business.
2. What we achieve isn’t always what we expected. Whether the result is a wriggly rainbow trout, an unhappy customer, or a realization that we don’t want to do the neat thing exactly the way the standard model works, we all learn by doing. We learn what we like and don’t like. We learn that surprises and the unexpected are a part of life — and we can either learn to accept this or constantly struggle trying to control that which is out of our control.1. New things are exciting. When you see someone else doing something neat, cool or different, it is natural to want to check it out.
3. Given time, even things that were once scary are no longer scary anymore. Comparing my 4 year old husband with the adult version, I know the adult loves to go fishing. But the first time, he didn’t look so excited. So if something is scary — like actually asking for help, or offering your services knowing you could be rejected, keep doing it. Remember the lessons from Go For No, and make the “nos” the accomplishment.
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